What I Learned from My Disappointment in Wonder Woman

This month’s theme at SheLoves Magazine is “Elephant in the Room.” What are things we don’t really talk about, though are glaringly obvious? I immediately thought of my response to Wonder Woman and how disappointed I was that we’re not ready for a truly feminist superhero. Here’s an excerpt, but I hope you’ll head over to SheLoves to join the conversation!

Annie-Rim-Wonder-Woman3We are in a stage of parenting where going to the movies is a low priority. The amount of planning and coordinating seems better spent on a date in which we look over a candle-lit table and have a great conversation. But when Wonder Woman hit the theaters, I knew I wanted to prioritize this film.

 I spontaneously texted my mom as we drove to church—Can you watch the girls after lunch? We want to see Wonder Woman. A quick affirmative text back meant that we suddenly had a date afternoon!

I had read articles about what an incredible film this was, from a feminist point of view, from a spiritual point of view, from a comic book nerd point of view. I went in with expectations high, ready to be inspired and filled with the fire of girl power.

I left disappointed. I won’t go into all the reasons it didn’t live up to my hopes and expectations—from the fact that, after Diana leaves Themyscira, island of the Amazonian women, the movie doesn’t pass the Bechdel test (in which two named women have a conversation about something other than a man) to the reality that it is still the male hero who saves the day.

As we drove home, my husband enthusiastically declared it a 5-star film!!! (All exclamation points belong to his optimistic nature.) I hemmed between 3.5 and 3.75 stars. (All precise decimals belong to my overly analytical nature.)

When will we stop taking baby steps? I asked. When will we finally have an action movie with a female hero, no strings attached?

I often feel this way about life, in general. I get so tired of taking baby steps. When people tell me that Black Lives Matter—it just takes baby steps for the system to change. Or when I hear that we do want to honor Indigenous Lands—it just takes baby steps for the government to treat them as sacred. Or that women are making strides in the workplace—it just takes baby steps to earn equal pay and sustainable maternity leave.

When are we going to take an actual step? When are we going to stop relying on milk and move to solid foods? Head over to SheLoves to read the rest!

What about you? Did you love Wonder Woman? Where are some places you long for leaps rather than baby steps?

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4 thoughts on “What I Learned from My Disappointment in Wonder Woman

  1. I’m cheering. All lives matter! Sexualized females obsessed with men are not my kind of hero. (I didn’t bother watching it) and baby steps are exhausting. I’m getting grumpy with humanity. Heading over to the site you linked. I promise not to give up hope.

    1. Ha! Yes to getting grumpy with humanity… and then remembering how sweet we can be, too. I’m glad you won’t give up hope – here’s to remembering to hope in community!

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