My mom’s engagement ring was a nontraditional emerald. It was lost before I remember what it looked like and my parents replaced it with a ruby ring, found an an antique market in Paris.
When our conversations turned toward engagement and marriage, I told Frank I didn’t want a diamond ring. In his quest for a fair trade, ethically sourced ring, he found Brilliant Earth, a company that specializes in sapphire engagement rings. I love my deep blue sapphire. It fits my personality – a classic cut and ring with a bit of a twist.
Many of our friends have a variety of stones in their rings, and Bea loves looking at the different colors. Emeralds, various shades of sapphire, pearls, and diamonds are all fun to look at. Beyond the personality differences in our friends’ choices, I love that Bea is subtly exposed to a different view of the wedding industry. She is being shown that you don’t have to fit into the marketing boxes, that you can have a symbol that represents your own personality.
The variety of engagement rings in some ways represents the variety of marriages and relationships being modeled for Bea. She is seeing so many representations of happy, healthy marriages. Our friends have all had their own journeys – some fit into a very traditional model while others are not at all following the mainstream. I’m thankful for these differences, that Bea will see firsthand that life is not done uniformly and that we all find our own path.
If you’re married, what kind of ring do you have? How does it represent your personality?
Linked with Kate Motaung’s Five Minute Friday, a time to write without editing.